Relationship Goals or Nah?

The last time I wrote on this topic, it was about Dana Chanel and Prince Dornell and now I am back on it but this time, I'll be talking about Banky and Susu.


It wasn't long ago we heard of Banky W and Adesua Etomi's relationship. Everyone was taken by it. Even my colleagues at work got into it and we couldn't get anything done that day. Then their introduction came and now Banky's skin cancer tumour announcement.

A wise man once said this: "Scars. A sign that you had been hurt. A sign that you had been healed." Scroll through the pictures to see mine. I'm sharing these because they're proof of what God has brought me through. And because somewhere out there, I know there's someone who needs to hear this. For those who've been wondering why I've been away so long..I had my 3rd surgery on a rare strain of skin cancer tumours in my shoulder last month. The first 2 times were over 10 yrs ago, then it recently resurfaced. But this isn't a sad story as much as it is a reminder, and a testimony. A reminder that you should never take life for granted. You only get 1 shot. Some people went to sleep and never woke up. Many others have lost the battle to cancer and other illnesses. Many are still fighting. U never know when your time will be up so don't waste another minute. It's also a testimony about the goodness of God. I think I had to go through this again to remember how merciful God is to me; Lord knows I don't deserve it but He saves me time and again anyway. I keep saying I need to write a book. I really, really do. The past few weeks of recovery have been tough, but beautiful. I'm finally back on my feet, feeling stronger and ready to get back to life. I'm especially thankful to my Nurse Susu for loving me and being by my side every step of the way - I don't deserve U 😍😭, my parents & siblings, in-laws & close friends for the love, support and prayers, my Pastors - Pastor Tony Rapu & Pastor Del Balogun of TPH, Pastor Taiwo Odukoya and Pastor Bayo Adeyokunnu - for constantly praying with and for me. And of course to Dr Wodajo & Dr Miralli & their teams - who God used to operate on me successfully. I'm thankful for life, provision and healing. Pls dont feel bad, or msg me with any worries.. God has done it, just thank Him for me. The pain will eventually go away but the scar won't - and I'm glad because it's a reminder to me of what God has done, and evidence to you of what He CAN do. I'm not stronger or better than anyone. I'm just a living testimony that no matter what u face, U can survive & thrive, by God's grace. #TheBankStatements #nowplaying #BlessingMe

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I was stunned and taken aback by the announcement, God really is on the throne.

But then, in all of it, I thought of Adesua. It's one thing to be getting married, the stress of planning a wedding et al but knowing that your hubby is going through this and sticking it out with him? That's strength. I know a lot of girls that will head for the hills. But as Banky put it, she was his nurse. She loved him and stood by his side every step of the way.

I know a lot of us would have been screaming "goals" when they first announced their relationship, but this whole cancer sojourn to me, is "goals". Sticking with your man through the hard times and standing your ground like a "bad bitch" is everything I aim to be and more.

So here's my advise to you guys (my male readers too!), don't be too focused on being the superficial ideal of a perfect couple. Actually stick it out and do the work. It takes a lot to be, as in my previous post, selfless and loving.

It's not every time, perfect photos and matching outfits. Sometimes, in fact most times, be there for your other half ... DO THE WORK!!!


Lots of love!

-Pookie!